Dora Nudelman
Where’s Your Line?

Sometimes in life there are things that we unwittingly choose to tolerate, and this happens for a multitude of reasons. Sometimes it can be due to an intense fear. Other times is can be due to low self-worth. Other times it can come from a martyr syndrome. Other times, still, it can come from a desire to be liked. Moreover, some people don’t like confrontation and would rather accept the status quo than ever dare rock the boat, even if it's for something that they adamantly believe in. Nonetheless, each and every one of us has a limit to what we will find acceptable. The problem is, too often people only realize what that limit is when things have already gone way too far. As such, there is a definite line that each of us must draw that tells others to unequivocally keep back. The question to ask ourselves is, how far do we need to fall before we realize that others have already crossed that line? And, what will it take for us to finally draw that line and defend our borders?
The thing is, it can be difficult to admit to yourself that you have been manipulated into giving your power away; it makes you feel stupid and gullible. But being ignorant to the deceit will only make things worse. Denying the truth will only prolong the pain. While it may initially seem difficult to admit that you’ve been duped, the road to empowerment can only start with acknowledging that you have indeed strayed.
There is no shame in making a mistake; shame only comes when you don’t learn from it. You may not even realize that you are making a choice that is taking you away from your higher-self vision. But that is exactly why it is so important to put your ego aside and to ask yourself if the path that you are currently on is really the path that you truly want to take. Is this who you came here to be? Does your current behavior and belief system represent the truth of who you are and who you want to be? What is your path being motivated by? Are you afraid? Are you feeling insecure? Are you being fed with lies and manipulated to think in a certain way? Your feelings don’t lie; it is only when you burry them or mask them and convince yourself that you are doing yourself a favor that you end up pushing that rock uphill for far too long.
Life is made of a series of choices, and each choice will take you on its own trajectory. So, then, wouldn’t it make sense to be conscious of those choices and think pre-emptively so that you can make wiser decisions? Knee-jerk reactions and judgments are based on the ego’s survivalist instinct. But your higher-self knows better. The question is, are you prepared and mature enough to actually listen?
You are not meant to live in fear. You are not meant to give away your autonomy. You did not come here to be controlled or pushed around. But the more that you allow yourself to be treated in this way, the farther you will stray from the true purpose for why you are here in the first place. This is your lesson to learn right now, and perhaps the biggest lesson of your life. So, then, the question remains, what are you going to do about it?