• Dora Nudelman

How to Feel Safe When the World Around You Doesn’t


I’ve been hearing a lot of talk lately from the spiritual community about standing in your personal sovereignty, declaring your personal safety, and standing up for your personal rights with confidence. However, while I agree wholeheartedly with all of those things, I realize that this is not always the easiest thing to do for everyone, especially for those who are currently facing real and actual threats to their safety. As such, I believe that if we are to believe in spiritual ideals, we must also bring them down to earth and apply them in real time and in real tangible ways, or else they will just stay as nice theories to think about, but never to practice.


1) Personal Sovereignty


What does it really mean to be free? Can prisoners of war feel free when they are shackled by their oppressors? Can citizens truly be free when they are beholden to follow societal rules and regulations? It’s easy to say that we are all free to choose, free to act, free to be. But when reality hits, sometimes this freedom doesn’t always seem as easy to come by as it sounds.


Let’s start with the mind. I think that we can all pretty much agree that each of us has dominion over our own thoughts. It’s true that we can hand that power away if outside forces are strong enough to bend our will. But we must acknowledge that if that does indeed happen, it is only because we chose, consciously or not, to give our power of mind to some external authority.


However, what if we decided that our thoughts were our own and that no one could ultimately take those thoughts away? Well, if we did that we would realize that we can actually control our thoughts, as well as create through those thoughts, the very conditions that we want to experience the most. The fact is, our thoughts can either be a prison of our own making, or they can be the very catalyst that we need to break free. Either way, we always have the freedom and sovereignty to decide.


So, yes, we are free, even if it doesn’t always seem that way, because we are always free to choose our thoughts, and that’s really all we need in order to create, and even change, our present reality. However, when we allow ourselves to believe that someone or something has power over us, that is what we will be choosing to create; it is the belief that something outside of us is in control of us that actually perpetuates the very circumstances that we want to eradicate. So, if we change our beliefs, our circumstances must reflect that change, if not immediately, then eventually, but always inevitably.


2. Personal Safety


What does it mean to be safe? And how can we feel safe when our environment doesn’t necessarily feel all that safe? Well, for starters, we need to start recognizing the difference between true reality and imagined reality. If we are allowing our mind to wander to negative scenarios, we undoubtedly will end up feeling unsafe, even if present circumstances have not indicated this to be absolutely true. When we run hypothetical unwanted scenarios in our mind, we perpetuate a feeling of not being safe, even if we are, in fact, safe and sound, right here in our living room. So, in a way, the idea of safety is actually a matter of perspective.


The question, however, is this: How do we feel safe in circumstances that are actually not safe in real time? Well, we choose to have faith. Okay, I know what you’re thinking. Faith is fine and good as a concept, but when someone is facing a real time fight or flight decision, faith isn’t exactly the most tangible tool we often think of. But what if it is tangible? What if faith is the exact catalyst for the very miracle that we need? It’s easy to blow something off as being too abstract to be practical, but what if faith actually proves itself to be true in the end? Wouldn't it be a shame not to try it out?


I tend to get nervous when flying as the plane hits turbulence. But whenever that happens the first thing I do to feel safe is I call on faith as my tool. I look at the bigger picture and realize that I am more than just my body. I am energy and my energy is connected with the energy of that plane, but also with the energy of the wind, the energy of the air pockets beneath me, and the energy of the entire universe and whatever is beyond it. I remember that everything at its core is simply part of the one and only energy grid that exists to connect all of life as we know it. My mantra to illustrate this point is: “God is home. God is everywhere. Everywhere is home.” And when I say this in my mind, right away it calms me down because I realize that I am so much more than just the obvious. And because of that, I am connected to so much more as well.


And so, safety is simply a state of mind, because when you realize that your ultimate safety lies in your connection to the whole of it all, then you no longer depend on outer circumstances to change or external permissions to make you feel safe. And the more faith you have in good outcomes, the safer you will feel, and the faster that safe state will appear in your life as well.


The truth is, most of the time, threats to our safety are more imagined than they are real. We decide that we are not safe because of this or that, but most of the time this or that is just a hypothetical scenario that we conjure up in our mind. So why put the cart before the horse? If it’s not up in your face right now, you simply needn’t worry about it. And the less you worry about it, the less it will be in your face. You are as safe as you believe yourself to be. And when you believe that, it will be clear that the universe is on your side and at your back.


3. Personal Rights


Your rights and freedoms are inalienable. What does that mean in the “real” world? It means that as much as those in positions of authority strut their stuff trying to make you believe that they own you, they don’t. No one does. Every single soul that comes to this earth is inherently free. And when we know this as our truth, it is much easier for us to say NO to the things that do not resonate. We are allowed to reject other people’s ideas of how we “should” live our lives. We are permitted to choose what we feel is best and right for ourselves. We do not need to seek or ask for permission. This is just a fact of life.


Now, you may be wondering, how can we enact our personal rights and freedoms when the “rules” within society dictate otherwise and have real world ramifications? Well, we simply realize that we still have a choice. And when others say that there will be consequences, more often than not, they are mostly bluffing. Now, that doesn’t mean that there might not be short-term effects that appear as consequences. It just means that with faith and belief in your ultimate right to live a free life, you can manifest circumstances beyond those consequences in order to create the life that you desire. Grace will find its way to you when you believe in your worth and you believe that you deserve to be free. Synchronicities will present themselves to help you manifest your ideal life without having to compromise your values or your freedoms.


The truth is, things always have a way of working themselves out when you believe that “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” But you have to have faith, stay the course, believe in good outcomes, and believe that the universe is working in your favor, now and always.


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