Connecting With Old Friends

There is nothing like it when you reconnect with someone you have known for years and discover that you're still as close as ever. While making new friends is certainly positive, when we connect with people whom we've known for a while, even if we have each evolved over the years, there is still a bond there that cannot be mistaken.

I've always been the type to have close-knit friendships more than large groups of acquaintances. I guess for me that deeper connection is what feels best as I'm not one to shoot the breeze or feign pleasantries. I like getting to know people on a deeper level in general, but there is something about not having to explain myself with people who've known me that always feels like something to appreciate.

However, it is also important to recognize the difference between holding on to the past and appreciating solid connections. Just because we have known someone for a long time does not mean we must endure their toxic behavior, if that is the case. Friendships still need to be a two-way street, and knowing someone for years is not enough of a reason on its own to continue. But if you have a friend who respects you, cherishes you, and appreciates you still being in their lives, that's the one to nurture.

So the message from this is: Cherish those in your life who know you and love you unconditionally. Let go of those who don't. Let go of grudges and resentments. Be kind, not naive. Make place for new people to enter, but don't lose sight of those who know you inside-out and have earned their place in your life.

Mindfully indulging in friendships simply means being present with each one and allowing yourself to make conscious choices that are in the best interests of all concerned. It also means taking the time out of your busy schedule to connect, or re-connect, with those who are important to you.

There will always be things we need to do, but we cannot allow ourselves to sacrifice our connections in the process. So, let's be mindful of the importance of our friendships and make sure that we take the time to nurture them and appreciate them for the value that they bring into our lives.

So today, reach out to someone you value but have unintentionally pushed to the side. Call that friend and tell them how much you appreciate their presence in your life. And take the time to get together and spend some quality time with one another, mindfully indulging in whatever you both love and enjoy in the real world (versus cyber space). Trust me, it will be well worth your time and good for your soul.