About Me & My Philosophies
My name is Dora Nudelman and I am a holistic life coach and a self-empowerment author, blogger, writer, and mindful indulgence facilitator and coach. I also hold a bachelor's degree in sociology and a post graduate education in journalism. Moreover, I have studied metaphysical, spiritual, and energetic principles at great lengths, and have implemented these principles into my own life in many practical ways.
I am also the founder and principal of The Quality of Life Advisors Group, a boutique lifestyle consulting company based out of Toronto, Canada that helps those seeking answers to find solutions by using a practical and grounded approach to spirituality, manifesting, "new age" principles, self-empowerment, and personal growth.
I've always been interested in the esoteric, magical, mysterious, and spiritual. As a highly intuitive individual my interests often carried me towards the study of energetic principles, crystals, chakras, intuition, and the general realm of the unseen, hidden, and unknown. But because these topics were not as mainstream as those of material gain, achievement, and accomplishment, I often kept these interests close to my chest, with only those closest to me knowing the truth.
Subsequently I engaged in the wheelings and dealings of the "real world" like everybody else but I still felt like something was missing. Playing "the game" was starting to lose its appeal. The status quo beliefs and standards being thrown at me felt suffocating and so it wasn't long before I found myself immersed once again in my heart-felt interests pertaining to the spiritual and energetic realms.
As I started engaging again in my spiritual studies it had felt like my first drink after a long walk in the desert. I soaked up all the information I could find from different perspectives and platforms and I felt uplifted and inspired because of it. But then a few years went by and something became apparently clear to me: some of my "spiritual" beliefs were actually causing blocks in my life.
Many of the spiritual teachings I admired taught about infinite abundance and the ability to be, do, and have anything our hearts desired. But others also talked about holding back, restricting desire, and being humble and modest to an extreme. As a result I became quite confused, even
feeling guilty at times for my ambitions. The problem was, I had misinterpreted the spiritual principles of detachment, purpose, and surrender as tenets for suppressing desire and ignoring right action.
Consequently, I had adopted a subconscious belief that my material goals were somehow not righteous enough and this lead to a fear of consequences. I also thought that unless I was constantly giving and sacrificing what I wanted in favor of pleasing others that my spiritual development would not advance. Already being a giver by nature this belief only perpetuated feelings of exhaustion and resentment within me. I found myself battling with my own desire to enjoy the material world with the misconception that spirituality was above all that. And while I wanted to continue to experience material success, I almost felt the need to excuse it or justify it against my spiritual principles. Furthermore, I had placed my wants and needs on the back-burner believing that this was the only path to spiritual enlightenment.
After much introspection and self-reflection, however, it finally dawned on me: everything in the physical world is first and foremost made of energy, including money, food, clothing, houses, cars, and so on. The building blocks of the natural world are all rooted in the same thing: potential. Everything that ever existed in the physical realm first started out as an intention in the mind's eye. So spirituality is in fact infused into everything we see and experience here on earth. The material is not separate from the spiritual but rather an expression of it as directed through our thoughts, desires, intentions, and actions.
Some disciplines and theologies will say that desire is the root of all evil. But I respectfully disagree. If it were not for desire nothing would ever get accomplished, invented, or created. We need desire to fuel our actions, so desire is not the enemy, nor should having what we desire be considered blasphemous.
The only problem with desire is when it gets ahead of us. Meaning, it is only when we feel a sense of separateness and allow our attachment and desperation for what we want to rule our choices and actions that desire gets the best of us. Money is not bad or wrong. It simply is. It's the meaning we attach to money, luxury, affluence, pleasure, and so on, that affects how we experience it. If we create, manifest, and experience from a place of spiritual awareness, mindfulness, wholeness, and appreciation, then we are actually living out our spirituality as we intended. If we were meant to live solely in our heads, if we were intended to suffer, and if we were expected to deprive ourselves of pleasure then our entire existence would be like a cruel experiment; like a dangled carrot that remains visible yet elusive.
Look around at the beauty of nature and all the wonderful creations and inventions we have available to us. What would be the point if we were not allowed to enjoy them? How would we survive as a community if we were not exchanging and appreciating the energy of each other's offerings? We do not live in a vacuum and, as such, we are indeed interdependent in many ways. For instance, how would a talented artist sustain himself if no one appreciated or bought his work? How would a top chef share her culinary talents if people believed that indulging in a fine meal was somehow spiritually blasphemous or unnecessary? Economies are built on buy and sell, give and receive, and if it were not for consumerism just imagine how many people would be out of work. Plus, our souls express themselves through our ability to follow our hearts and share our talents with others who are happy to receive them, so it is truly a win-win.
Indulging in life's pleasures is not a sin. Finding the joy in the little or big luxuries that life has to offer is not inherently evil. We each get to choose what we value and no one really has the right to judge us for it. If appreciating the artistry in a fine meal makes you feel appreciative of the earth's bounty, or wearing a beautiful dress makes you feel like your creativity and inner beauty are being properly expressed, how can that be a sin or somehow "unspiritual"? It is only if you eat that meal in haste or wear that dress solely to impress that your actions might be spiritually deflated. It all comes down to intention and motivation, and that is a very personal thing.
I believe it is our Divine responsibility to make the most of the time we have here in this incarnation, on this earth, at this time, with what we have available. I believe we are here to experience our divinity and our spirituality by manifesting it into our physical experience, and then sharing our joy with others along the way. I believe we are here to enjoy life, connect with one another, and find harmony within ourselves and with the world at large.
One might argue that "living it up" is selfish and shallow, especially given that so many people on the planet live in poverty and turmoil. But is making ourselves martyrs really the answer? Would making ourselves impoverished and unhappy help others in that position? Or does it make more sense that when we are doing well, when we are happy, and when we are expressing our personal freedom, that only then do we truly have the energy and the resources to help anyone else? I am sure that given the opportunity everyone would choose happiness over misery and to help from a position of empowerment rather than self-imposed weakness.
Your suffering will only add to the problem. Suffering does not cure others' suffering, just like your being sick won't make someone else any healthier. Your being poor won't make anyone else any richer. We all live in the macrocosm of this abundant universe but each of us is also having a very micro experience. Consequently, if we want to make the macro a better place we can only help from our own personal vantage point. But if from that vantage point we feel guilty for enjoying life's luxuries (whatever that means to you) and feel gratified only in misery or scarcity, how can that actually be of help to anyone in the "real world"?
So this is where I stand when it comes to the topics of spirituality, abundance, and the physical world. As such, my blog will reflect this point of view by discussing how we can merge spirituality with materialism in ways that are both mindful and non-judgmental, pleasurable and meaningful. It will also focus on our connection with our higher-self wisdom in order to bring our consciousness back into our physical bodies, which will help us savor our experiences from a more thoughtful and present perspective. Furthermore, I will explore topics that will have to do with elevating our consciousness and being more aware of our motivations so that we can make mindful choices as we move through life. Plus, I will focus on the importance of self-respect, self-acceptance, and self-appreciation so that we can all live our best lives, unapologetically and with no shame.
So join me in enjoying everything wonderful this world and life have to offer us. And whether you do it through experience or simply through your imagination, either way you will be setting yourself up for more joy and more overall abundance to come into your life.